We broke up.
Ok, I've blogged about it, put it as my status, and made it official on Facebook. This Internet life is weird and has it's own morality. Should I have waited for him to cancel the relationship on Facebook since I initiated the breakup? Will I hurt his feelings by broadcasting it? Or am I just saving my own by not having to say it aloud to friends?
I want kids, eventually. He doesn't know yet. It was inevitable, sad as all hell, and scary beyond belief to break up with him.
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See, I thought this feeling
It was all that I had
But how could this be love
And make me feel so bad?
Gave up my power,
I existed for you
But whoever knew the voodoo you'd do?
But I, I loved the young man
And if you've ever been in love you'd understand
What you want might make you cry
What you need might pass you by
If you don't catch it
And what you need ironically
Will turn out what you want to be
If you just let it,
What you want might make you cry
What you need might pass you by
If you don't catch it
And what you need ironically
Will turn out what you want to be
If you just let it,
If you just let it
Not at all
You shouldn't have even told him. Just set your status on facebook, that's good enough. That's how I plan on breaking the divorce to my wife, you know, when that day eventually comes.
There was a how to article like this in Wired a while back. Basically, don't fret.
Oy
Major bummer dude. I think you should use this as a good excuse to hop a plane up to p-town for some friend time. I can hear Oba calling our name...
sorry
It's too bad it didn't work out and everyone is sad now, but it's good that you realized the relationship had a fatal flaw (difference in opinion regarding kids) before you got married. There are reasons it is important to have these kinds of discussions before you get married, because for everyone there are some things that just aren't worth sacrificing in a relationship.
virtual hug
Sorry we can't be in person to all give you a hug. I can't imagine how hard it must be to end a relationship that's been such a big part of your life. Sometimes conquering the things that are the scariest when you know it's the best thing for you can be really empowering and freeing. But it really sucks in the middle of it...
For what little help it is...
As long as you told him first, if he gets mad it's because he's looking to be mad about something. If not facebook, then it would be something else.
May, I'm really sorry. :(
May, I'm really sorry. :( There's nothing that can really be said other than you probably did the right thing for you.
I wish you were in Portland so I could go take you out for some drinks. Perhaps some Rock Band to help! Either way, let me know if there is anything I can do.